"Thanks everyone"
A few of Mum's birthday bouquets.
(she loved them all )
The four girls at home.
She realises now that having so many visitors actually stopped her from getting her things done. As much as she enjoys visitors and they bring her a lot of happiness and joy, it stops her from getting her rest too.....
Keep well. Lots of love Miranda
On Saturday we called the locum doctor who prescribed a new lot of antibiotics. Mum couldn't tolerate them. We called the doctor on Sunday morning, who fortunately was her regular doctor. He prescribed different medication, but she continued to decline rapidly in the afternoon, not being able to eat or even drink.
Unfortunately her temperature continued to rise until it went up to 39.4 . We have a wonderful support service (not-for-profit organisation) called Eastern Palliative care, who give us 24 hours support. With their advice and intervention, we called an ambulance and the hospital accepted her immediately.
Unfortunately her temperature continued to rise until it went up to 39.4 . We have a wonderful support service (not-for-profit organisation) called Eastern Palliative care, who give us 24 hours support. With their advice and intervention, we called an ambulance and the hospital accepted her immediately.
She was administered with antibiotics and antiemetic in the Emergency Department and admitted to the ward after x-rays found clear lungs. So the next obvious thing was that it was an infection in the stent that had been put in last month. Her specialist had told her when she had the previous operation that in 6 - 8 weeks she'd probably need to have it cleared or replaced.
This morning they offered her surgery to clear or replace the stent. She again asked many questions and it was explained to her that if she didn't have the operation it would be the end. She told them she wanted time to think about it.
Of course her first thought was us. Mum said "It'd be selfish of me to continue when you're torn from your homes, your lives, your husbands." We both instilled in her the importance of making decisions for herself, not considering everyone else first. Neither of us were worried about staying longer.
We of course leave all these decisions to her. She then decided "I will have one more stent operation, because I still have unfinished business”, and then she said “that’s it though, if I survive this one.”
This morning they offered her surgery to clear or replace the stent. She again asked many questions and it was explained to her that if she didn't have the operation it would be the end. She told them she wanted time to think about it.
Of course her first thought was us. Mum said "It'd be selfish of me to continue when you're torn from your homes, your lives, your husbands." We both instilled in her the importance of making decisions for herself, not considering everyone else first. Neither of us were worried about staying longer.
We of course leave all these decisions to her. She then decided "I will have one more stent operation, because I still have unfinished business”, and then she said “that’s it though, if I survive this one.”
She realises now that having so many visitors actually stopped her from getting her things done. As much as she enjoys visitors and they bring her a lot of happiness and joy, it stops her from getting her rest too.....
Everyone has had a chance to see her for the last time, which was a gift, and now she’s seen everyone.... It is family time. We only have 4 weeks left at best. Luckily the doctor said absolutely NO VISITORS for a week. She can actually get some rest and recuperate.
We don’t want to see her again in the state she was yesterday when we sent her to hospital. It was pitiful. So, today she did a very important job that’s been sitting around waiting for the right time. I also got to do some family history with her. Someone said, she looks better than me; rosy complexion , legendary grand smile - "It's hard to believe she's even ill." they said. I can tell you, we certainly knew on the weekend!
Tonight I’ve taken the phone off the hook - it was unrelenting, as soon as I put the phone down, it rang again. I need to spend time with Mya when I get home, and we need sleep to keep up our stamina. Please understand, we have to take care as carers and make the most of this special time. I’ll send Mya to school and then field all the phone calls in the morning, till I go to see her into hospital at 11 when visiting hours start.
Well dear friend, that’s all the news. Thanks for reading the blog, it saves me a lot of time repeating the same information. I appreciate your interest and concern. We now know time is precious.
Keep well. Lots of love Miranda
Yippee...George arrives in 2 more sleeps!
Happy birthday to Loretta tomorrow (29th) - no.. not 29th birthday, 29th of May!!
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